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Some questions about experiences

1. Are any of you "out" to your family? What were their reactions? Or do you try to keep things on the down low as much as possible?

2. Is there a queer community where you live? Is it an ethnic one? Do you feel you fit in?

any comments would be cool :)
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From:toujours_nigel
Date:March 13th, 2009 03:13 am (UTC)
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No, yes and no.

To clarify, prolly bisexual, haven't told, and don't know (or want to) much about the queer community here. dear gods I sound a bitch, which I am but not in this context. There are reasons, most of them being beautiful and as far as I've heard, shallow, gay men.
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From:cicatricex2
Date:March 13th, 2009 03:51 am (UTC)
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jeez i just freaked b/c i saw "nigel" and immediately thought my brother was on here!

to your comment: fair enough
also: "dear gods I sound a bitch, which I am but not in this context. There are reasons, most of them being beautiful and as far as I've heard, shallow, gay men"- lol :)
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From:toujours_nigel
Date:March 13th, 2009 03:53 am (UTC)
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:) nooo, it's just my HP mania showing.
From:fireshowers
Date:March 15th, 2009 03:02 pm (UTC)
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shut up! i like the gay men!
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From:toujours_nigel
Date:March 15th, 2009 03:04 pm (UTC)
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These ones? really?
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From:eesh0130
Date:March 13th, 2009 07:37 pm (UTC)
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1. Are any of you "out" to your family? What were their reactions? Or do you try to keep things on the down low as much as possible?

yes. at first the father thought i was sick and the mother thought i was goin through a phase. then they educated themselves and i had a chance to talk to my mother at length about queer/trans issues, so now they're more accepting. my father is still confused about anything non-hetero and i don't think he even has the language to begin discussing this with me. i think my mother still wants me to be straight coz now she's concerned for my safety. my sisters are cool, but still require time to realize that they can't go around making homophobic and transphobic comments..(anymore..?)

2. Is there a queer community where you live? Is it an ethnic one? Do you feel you fit in?

um, there's a queer people of colour community where i live, and i live with a couple queer people with south asian backgrounds. i've started feeling comfortable in this community but i don't fit in entirely because i don't know how much a 'desi' community includes people from the indentured labourer diaspora, i.e. brown people from the west indies, mauritius, etc. so i'm still looking for a queer west indian community.

hope this helps.
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From:cicatricex2
Date:March 15th, 2009 03:49 pm (UTC)
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that's interesting. I haven't met very many people of the disaspora brown varity so I haven't even considered what it's like for them queer wise among other south asians...hmmm

thanks :)
From:fireshowers
Date:March 15th, 2009 03:01 pm (UTC)
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1. bisexual, out to any family that matters. (my family is like a clan, most of them don't know who i am in terms of identity either, so i don't feel the need to tell them about my sexuality.)

2. there is a queer community in my city, and unlike toujours_nigel i've come to know a part of the female sections of it lately (we're from the same place), but it's mostly an activism-based community and i'm neither an activist nor someone who functions well in communities. i don't, and don't particularly want to fit in (not here or anywhere else). just not part of my nature.
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From:cicatricex2
Date:March 15th, 2009 03:52 pm (UTC)
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I have a bit of a hard time getting into activism mostly b/c the people who do it in my city are REALLY into it and tight knit. And it's hard to get into the tight knitness, make time commitments, and so on...

gotcha :)
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